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Low Risk, High Reward, Lots of Dice Rolls (or Act Smarter)

Nothing in the universe is truly random; reality is governed by cause and effect (at least on a macro scale). But many aspects of life appear random because we don’t have infinite knowledge or perception. There are also domains that we understand but are unable to choose or influence (such as the genes we’re born with or the interests we’re drawn to), so they might as well be random.

Sometimes we refer to the random-appearing events that happen to people as luck. Everyone has good luck and bad luck. Bad luck might manifest as illness, relationships gone sour, unemployment, investment losses, or freak accidents. Good luck might manifest as marrying well, gambling winnings, a perfect job offer, an abundance of friends, or great genetics.

Looking at these lists, it’s obvious that at least some of these things are partially within our control. Good health habits can prevent or mitigate many illnesses. Good communication skills can save a marriage.

On the other hand, bad things do happen to good people making good decisions. People are born into bad situations (war-torn countries, abusive families, etc.). Natural disasters can occur out of the blue. A drunk driver might take you out on the freeway. Some things are just completely out of our control, like the DNA within our cells (at least until we enter the science fiction realm of genetic self-determination).

So how can we best navigate the realm of luck? How can we exploit that wiggle room between “clearly within our realm of influence” and “completely out of our control”?

Remembering to Be Emotionally Non-Reactive (Electric Hot Tub Emergency)

Not our house, not our hot tub.

My wife and daughter really wanted a hot tub. Eventually they convinced me. And with all the money we’ve saved by not traveling or eating out during the pandemic, we could afford it.

There were two dozen things that needed to happen in the back yard before we could put in the hot tub. An old trellis needed removing. Some post holes needed to be filled with concrete. A fence needed repairing.

Eventually we completed all these tasks as a family. The hot tub arrived. Our electrician installed it.

And it didn’t work. It turned on but it didn’t heat up. Instead of a hot tub we just had a tub.

Luck is the Opposite of Efficiency

I have a repeating to-do item in my Todoist: do something to increase luck.

To remind myself of the things I can do to get more lucky, I include the following subcategories:

  • Do something nice/kind
  • Meet someone new
  • Show up (purposefully vague)
  • Bring someone up (signal boost, advise, or otherwise help someone with less power than myself)
  • Put myself or my work out there (submit something, publicly speak up, etc.)

Those subcategories have evolved somewhat since I first performed my 30-day luck experiment. I’ve picked items that mesh well with my personality and that are easily actionable.

Some people do these things naturally everyday without a second thought. But I’ve had to train myself, and I still consider myself a luck beginner.

How and When to Use Negative Visualization

I don’t enjoy worrying or ruminating. Excessive rumination is linked to depression, a loss of hope, and a more negative interpretation of events and experiences. When I find myself obsessing on a negative possibility, I do what I can to break out of that thought pattern. Exercise or sports usually helps, as does any kind of physical activity that demands my full attention. Writing and journaling can help to crystallize or express my thoughts, and to gain perspective.

There are advantages to optimism. Optimists tend to live longer and have better health outcomes when they get sick. They may be more successful in their careers and have better financial health. I’m usually optimistic, but I have plenty of worries and anxieties as well. I also wonder how much I should try to be optimistic and not worry about various possible calamities, and in what circumstances it makes sense to consider worst case scenarios and other poor outcomes.

I usually try to imagine best case scenarios. Even though those best case scenarios are unlikely to materialize, imagining them help keep me oriented in the direction I want to be going.

But I think there is a place for imagining bad possibilities in detail.

Imagining Best Case Scenarios

I’ve been experimenting with two complementary techniques for influencing the quality and direction of my life. In this post I’ll write about one of those methods: imagining and describing best case scenarios.

While it’s easy and natural for most people to imagine and try to mentally prepare for worst case “what if” scenarios, it’s less intuitive to imagine what life would be like if everything went amazingly well.

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